Achieving your goals
Why is it so hard to achieve your goals? Every year hundreds of millions of people set goals for the new year, yet very few (less than 15%!) meet their goals.
Should you have goals? Absolutely! Your mind is programmed to learn more and experience more and need goals to work at its best. Goals give you focus, motivation and is an excellent tool to overcome procrastination.
I follow the below guidance and always achieve all my goals!
- Have three goals at a time
Part of the reasons why so many people do not achieve their goals is because they have too many. It is a good idea to start with three goals and once you achieve a goal, to set a new one. At any given point in time you should have three goals. When you have to many goals, you cannot focus your attention effectively which makes it so much harder to meet your goals.
- Your goal should include you
You cannot set goals for other people as you cannot control them. Yes, you can set goals for a group of which you are part, but you cannot set a goal that your child will pass matric. You cannot control other people’s actions and goals; you can merely influence them.
- Goals should be something you truly want
Don’t set goals towards something you do not really want. One of my clients was told by his doctor that it would be good for his health to loose some weight, so he included it as one of his goals, but never managed to loose any weight. When I challenged him on the goal, he acknowledged that he is only doing it because this doctor gave him a harsh talk and his wife is nagging him. Unfortunately, he will never loose weight unless he decides that he really wants to do it.
- Be realistic
By saying you should be realistic, I am not implying that you should not have stretched goals…all I am saying that your goal should make logical sense. For example: if I set my goal to run the Comrades Marathon, but I have never even run a 10 km, it might be wise to first have a goal to run a 10 km comfortably, then a goal to run a 21 km, etc. Big goals often include a series of smaller goals and it makes sense to start with the smaller goals and build it up to the overall, big goal.
Going too big too quickly might well set you up for failure which in turn will put a big dent in your confidence.
On the other hand, going too small is no fun at all!
- Set a date
A goal without a set date by when you would like to achieve it is merely a dream. As soon as you set a date, it becomes real and your mind starts working to find a way to achieve the goal. Your mind likes to work towards something in a specified timeframe, so work with your mind.
- Put it somewhere where you can see it daily
A goal should not only exist in your mind; you should write it down, clearly and concisely, and put it somewhere you can look at it many times every day. For the creative souls amongst us, get some pictures that represent your goals and put it somewhere you can look at it often. Perhaps you want to build a vision board…
- Visualise the end state
When you can already see yourself having your goal, it is so much easier to achieve it. Close your eyes and see yourself having your goal – see it, feel it and enjoy it!
This becomes a very powerful tool with studies. Visualise the end-goal before you study and you will be surprise how much easier your studies become.
- Tell people about your goal
The more you talk about your goal with others, the more committed you become to achieving it. Making yourself accountable to your friends and family is one of the best ways to reach your goals. No doubt it will be uncomfortable to share your setbacks however, when others know what you are up to, they will support you during the tough and the good times alike.
- Love yourself
You are the most important person in this goal-setting process. Love yourself for setting goals and love yourself for achieving them. Commit to yourself and then re-commit yourself each time you fall (as it might happen along the way).
You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will. Stephen King